Processional Music | ||||
Passacaglia- G. F. Handel Jesu Joy of Man's Desiring- J. S. Bach | ||||
Celebrant: Nothing happens without a cause. The union of Yonchu and Toshi has not come about accidentally but is a foreordained result. This tie can therefore not be broken or dissolved.
In the future, happy occasions will come as surely as night. When things go joyously, continue to learn and grow. When things go badly, continue to learn and grow. By always striving to be the best that you can, you will be well guided in your lives.
To say the words "love and compassion" is easy. But to accept that love and compassion are built upon patience and perseverance is not easy. Your marriage will be firm and lasting if you remember this. | ||||
Celebrant: | ||||
We have come together for the marriage of Yonchu and Toshi. May they continue to deepen their life with each other and with all other beings.
Marriage begins in the giving of words. We cannot join ourselves to one another without giving our word. And this must be an unconditional giving, for in joining ourselves to one another we join ourselves to the unknown.
May I extend my joy to you on this happy occasion. Yonchu and Toshi, you are about to take a new step forward into life. This day is made possible not only because of your love for each other, but through the grace of your parents and of the whole society. It is my hope that your fulfillment and joy in each other and in yourselves will increase with every passing year. | ||||
We nourish ourselves and each other in living by living by the following five precepts:
1. In every way we can, we allow our deepest Self to appear.
2. We take full responsibility for our own life, in all its infinite dimensions.
3. We affirm our trust in the honesty and wisdom of our own body, which with our love and reverence always shows us the true way.
4. We are committed to embrace all parts of ourself, including our deepest fears and shadows, so that they can be transformed into light.
5. We affirm our willingness to keep our heart open, even in the midst of great pain. | ||||
Reading:
Blessed are the man and the woman who have grown beyond themselves and have seen through their separations. They delight in the way things are and keep their hearts open, day and night. They are like trees planted near flowering rivers, which bear fruit when they are ready. Their leaves will not fall or wither. Everything they do will succeed.
-The book of Psalms, adapted by Stephen Mitchell Read by Susie Stratton | ||||
Readings: | ||||||
Active love is a harsh and fearful thing compared with love in dreams. Love in dreams thirsts for immediate action, quickly per- formed, and with everyone watching. Indeed, it will go as far as the giving even of one's life, provided it does not take long but is soon over, as on stage, and everyone is looking on and praising. Whereas active love is labor and perseverance, and for some peo- ple, perhaps, a whole science. But I predict that even in that very moment when you see with horror that despite all your efforts, you not only have not come nearer your goal but seem to have gotten farther from it, at that very moment,I predict this to youyou will suddenly reach your goal and will clearly behold over you the wonder-working power of the Lord, who all the while has been loving you, and all the while has been mysteriously guiding you.
Fyodor Dostoevsky from "The Brothers Karamozov" Read by Tienchin Ho | ||||||
Celebrant: Now Yonchu and Toshi will take their marriage vows.
Bride: I, Yonchu, take you, Toshi, to be my husband, in equal love, as a mirror for my true Self, as a partner on my path, to honor and to cherish in sorrow and in joy, till death do us part.
Groom: I Toshi, take you, Yonchu, to be my wife, in equal love, as a mirror for my true Self, as a partner on my path, to honor and to cherish, in sorrow and in joy, till death do us part. | ||||||
I'll give my love an apple without a core, I'll give my love a house without a door, I'll give my love a palace wherein she may be, And she may unlock it without any key.
My head is the apple without a core, My mind is the house without a door, My heart is the palace wherein she may be, And she may unlock it without any key.
Anonymous Read by Marlene Best | ||||||
I want to be your friend for ever and ever. When the hills are all flat and the rivers are all dry, when the trees blossom in winter and the snow falls in summer, when heaven and earth mix not till then will I part from you.
The Yueh-fu, Read by Jennifer Willis | ||||||
I love you because you Are helping me to make Of the lumber of my life Not a tavern But a temple; Out of the works Of my every day Not a reproach But a song. |
Groom: Yonchu, with this ring I thee wed.
Bride: Toshi, with this ring I thee wed. | ||||||||
I love you, Not only for what you are, But for what I am When I am with you.
I love you, Not only for what You have made of yourself, But for what You are making of me.
I love you For the part of me That you bring out; I love you For putting your hand Into my heaped-up heart And passing over All the foolish, weak things That you can't help Dimly seeing there, And for drawing out Into the light All the beautiful belongings That no one else had looked Quite far enough to find. | |||||||||
Celebrant:
May the essences of Yonchu and Toshi blend in deepest joy on a spiritual and daily living level. May the working out of this union be filled with happiness, mutual adventure, honest communication, and a shared vision of mutual comprehension of each other's deepest needs.
Would you please join your hands.
Celebrant raises hand in a blessing.
With the uniting of these two spirits and through their intent to live in each other's presence, let the two become as one, in mind, emotion, body and spirit. | |||||||||
I love you Because you have done More than any creed Could have done To make me good, And more than any fate Could have done To make me happy.
You have done it Without a touch, Without a word, Without a sign. You have done it By being yourself. Perhaps that is what Being a friend means, After all. | |||||||||
Celebrant:
Yonchu and Toshi have chosen each other from the many men and women of the earth, have declared their love and purpose before this gathering, and have made their pledge each to the other symbolized by the holding of hands and the giving and receiving of rings. Therefore, I declare that they are husband and wife.
May they find here the good beginning of their married life and the fruitfulness of many years.
Recessional Music
La Rejouissance- G. F. Handel | |||||||||
Roy Croft, Read by Hejin Oshiro | |||||||||
Celebrant:
Rings are an ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round like the sun, like the eye, like arms that embrace. Circles, for love that is given comes back round again and again. Therefore, may these symbols remind you that your love, like the sun, illumines; that your love, like the eye, must see clearly; and that your love, like arms that embrace, is a grace upon this world. | |||||||||
Reception Music (dedicated in memory of Jordan Kaplan) | ||||
Musicians
Steve Dalton-violin Tom Bodenheimer- violin Bob Gutzman-viola Jérôme Claverie-cello
Videographer
Toshio Takeuchi
Photographer
Rufus Diamante
Band
Tuxedo Junction | ||||
String Quartet No. 21 in D major, K. 575- Mozart
Allegretto Andante Menuetto Allegretto | ||||
Wedding Party
Patty Jenkins Maid of Honor Don Low Best Man Ai Ching Lim Bridesmaid Donna Campisi Bridesmaid Yukiko Takeuchi Bridesmaid Kenji Takeuchi Groomsman John Markey Groomsman Rudy Rico Groomsman Nikki Stratton Flower child Breaanna Stratton Flower child | ||||
Yonchu and Toshi would like to thank all of their friends and family for their love and support. | ||||